The 7-Day Booty Stall

It has probably been a long time since you got a booty call from your man, especially if you sleep next to him every night.  Let’s face it. The booty call is one of few good things about being single and unattached. The anticipation of the sex is hot and you are on fire before your FWB (friend with benefits) even arrives. Remember those days?  Well you can get that fire back in your relationship with the “booty stall.”

Are you thinking the last thing you need is a stall in your sex life? If you are having sex less than you would like it is probably because it is not enjoyable enough for you.  If sex between you is just not as intense as it used to be then a booty stall could be just what the doctor ordered. A booty stall is not simply a break from sex. It is a fast of sorts because it is intentionally designed to increase your desire and intensity for sex with your partner.

Since some of you may be on a sexual rotation longer than seven days you may need to draw this out a couple of weeks or a month.  The key is to increase the intensity during your sex cycle. If you want to increase your frequency, then put yourself on three 7-day rotations and watch the sparks fly.

Here’s how it works:

Days 1-3:        No physical interaction more than playful pats and kisses.

Days 4-5:        If you are heated up enough for sex, it is time for some heavy petting. Use your fingers, toes, tongues and tummies.  But, you cannot use your genitals. Stay away from the sweet spots.

Day 6:             Chances are you’ll be super hot for each other but no touching on Day 6. If you have to give a little smooch, go ahead. But NO TONGUE!

Day 7:             You will be ripping the clothes off of each other like you used to do during the booty call days.  Enjoy the intensity and embrace the moment.

Kamryn Adams is a lifestyle writer, author and expert in contemporary women’s issues. She offers clever insight and lends creative solutions to family, friendship and relationship dilemmas that affect the emotional well-being and daily lives of women. As a writer, Kamryn has contributed to a number of print and online media outlets: Traveling Mom, Working Mother, Recognize Magazine, Executive 50 Magazine and others. Her expert opinion has appeared in MSN Lifestyle, The New York Times, Working Mother Magazine, The Cincinnati Enquirer and more. In addition to her freelance work, she also hosts a life issues blog, “The Chocolate MYLF: Mother You Love To Follow”, and a relationship advice blog, “Main Chick Monologues”. Kamryn is an author whose novels align with her experience as an emotional wellness advocate for women. Her debut novel, “Par for the Curse” (2009) was awarded at the New York Book Festival, Baltimore Book Festival and considered for an NAACP Image Award in literature. Most recently she released “When the Butterfly Falls” (2013), a story that examines the complexity of infidelity, closed adoption, and blended families. Kamryn understands how to examine an issue in a way that will allow the reader to be engaged, enlightened, and still entertained by difficult or uncomfortable topics. With authenticity and charismatic wit, Kamryn continues to build an audience via her podcasting, blogs, social media interaction, and novels.


  1. E.B. Davis

    March 10, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    Great tips; however,you can also add toys to your play. Sex is both a mental and physical interaction, so you have to be ready on both ends.

    • Ms. Nix

      March 10, 2014 at 1:25 pm

      Absolutely…I believe in toys to add a little bit more spice in your sex life.

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