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Depending on how things ended will dictate your transition. I recently broke up with a man I dated for a year. I did not see it coming, but because I’m a realist and live in reality, it didn’t shut me down. He basically mentioned he’d been talking to another woman over the phone and he enjoyed their conversations, in his words “they had great conversations” and he wasn’t sure where it might go, so he wanted to give me a “heads up”. WOW! I reached over for my glass of water because I was immediately parched… So I broke up with him, he had disrespected our relationship, he’d disrespected me, he’d violated my trust and my love. I was firm about it, explained it and was done. Surprisingly enough, I wasn’t sad; I was disappointed, but not because of the year spent, not because I trusted him, but because he didn’t want it bad enough! Because many times we make things more difficult than they actually are… For instance, you have a wonderful person in your life; they’re smart, funny, spiritual and easy on the eyes… But that grass across the way looks so green from your window… We forget that grass is living, it requires nurturing, water, heat, sun, some shit every now and again, it needs to be pulled up and replanted sometimes, but what the gardener never does is abandons his duty, his commitment to making his grass the best!
So fast forwarding to the present, he still calls, he still stops by to see and talk to various family members to plead with them to assist him because he doesn’t “know” what he did… Really? No, he chooses not to be responsible for his actions that caused the demise of our relationship. That in itself is unacceptable… So with that said, do I miss his presence-yes, do I have to break the habits I’ve created over the last year-yes… But guess what? Nothing is more important than R-E-S-P-E-C-T (thanks Aretha)!!! If you are not getting the respect you know you deserve, time to reassess and possibly close a door or two! Take it from me, there’s somebody for everybody, you just got to wean through all these frogs to get to your prince/princess… Believe me it’s better to be the “One that got away” than to be the one that’s thirsty! Leave them speechless and ever wanting more…
LOVE STILL EXISTS – The DivorcedDiva