Friend Zone- Can It Be Broken?

Most guys that meet a female that they are attracted to are hoping to advance to the next level of position and by that I mean horizontal, vertical whatever. The most killing point of this notion for us men is to hear the “Let’s just be friends speech”. Oh the devastation this causes to a man’s psyche.  You meet a female that you are interested in and then you are lucky enough to have that first date, man you are thinking “yeah this is going to be nice”. Then it happens the friend zone speech.

The Hopeful: You know I would really like to see you again you know and just see where this goes. So what do you think?

The Unconquerable: You know I had a nice time but I’m just not feeling you that way so how about we just be friends.



Now when a guy hears this it’s like an echo and in his mind he’s thinking Oh G**Damn! It’s over right? Not a chance in hell. Well here’s the thing with men, we will do this just on the premise that we might get in.

We still think we have a shot so we will accept a woman’s challenge of being in the friend zone but you best understand this man will give it a go at  trying to be your friend but his intent is be your lover. That’s for real.

Hey ladies, we will wait until that moment of weakness when you need a friend someone  that’ll have a shoulder you can cry on and then we will be there with draws blazing. You best believe that.

 So just for argument sake

 Can you have a male friend ladies? Sure you can if he’s gay. Naw but for real you can as long as the sexual quest was never there but that’s seldom the case. Most guys have already thought about how many ways they would like to do you before they say hello to you.

You seriously best believe that he will kick down the door of the friend zone if he thinks he has a chance at getting with you.


So what about the other percent?  

These would have to be men that are as I said:

  • Not ever having a sexual interest in you.
  • Men that are bound by marriage or some other form of a committed relationship.

(These men also must come with some moral compass for not crossing the friend zone line).

  • Have low self esteem therefore making them ecstatic that someone like you wants to be friends. (This gives them street cred so they can pump up their chest to other male friends).
  • Has been dumped on by so many or one particular  woman that he too is now only looking for a friend.
  • Lastly he is a virgin. (Also very rare)

Seriously though people we are adults and as such it should not be impossible to think folks of the opposite sex can just be friends, right?

We have the ability to sensible and portray the proper conduct when socializing with one another. It should be fine.  A Man can have a relationship with a woman without wanting to have sex with her.

Ya’ll know I’m just messing with ya’ll right?

 Do you think friends of the opposite sex could become lovers? I’ll put it to you like this; ask your male friend this question. If it was open to you and I being intimate  would you be up for it? Now take a quick glance down at his pants.

Chances are he already has.

Larry D. Miller has over 20 yrs. in the field of crisis intervention as a call center Supervisor for a national crisis hotline. Larry has authored a book titled "How to cheat and not get busted" is currently available at: and many online book retailers. Larry is not only a contributing writer for Ms Nix in the MIx he also generates his own blogs and facebook pages. Larry enjoys spending time with his family, writing, coaching baseball and playing golf.


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  3. Brenda Lee

    January 21, 2015 at 4:56 am

    Interesting post Larry. I always thought men and women could be friends, ok wait, let me retract that. I usually can be friends, just friends, with a man and I do have a few that I would never cross the line, however, given them the chance, they would. But, I’m totally fine with that. It’s nice to be lusted over. :)
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    • Ms. Nix

      January 21, 2015 at 12:28 pm

      A lot of women know this (men too) and they like the idea of their ego being stroked….

      • larrydmiller2013

        January 22, 2015 at 11:30 pm

        That works both ways for guys in more ways than one (LOL)

    • larrydmiller2013

      January 22, 2015 at 11:29 pm

      Nothing wrong at all with being lusted for.

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