Male Female Bestfriends

Isn’t every good relationship built on trust, friendship and love? So when real life kicks in and you’re past all the “niceties” of a new relationship, there will be a couple of things that find their way to irritate you… But you can’t fight every battle, choose wisely… So I choose to “discuss” an issue that doesn’t sit so well with me… My Man’s Best Friend is a single woman… Before you go there, yes I trust him! Don’t go there! A better question is do I trust her, right? Well, I don’t. I don’t know her like that, and I’m not going to be undermined by anyone, not him, not his momma or his BESTIE! We women know exactly the right “tools” to use to be the Master Manipulators we are (yes Ladies, accept it), so I definitely don’t want someone who thinks she’s “allowed” to manipulate him. They hang out at the house, at the sports bar and some group functions amongst their mutual friends. I’m always invited, and I go to many of the functions, but I don’t understand why she doesn’t have her own man. And yes, I asked if they’d ever been intimate, the answer is NO… Nevertheless, I don’t like her so close… I personally feel like all relationships need to be “protected” to grow. I really don’t think he’d be so comfortable with me having a single man as my best friend for that matter…

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So how many of your mates have a “BEST FRIEND” of the opposite sex?

Do you get jealous of their closeness? Does it bother you when they have “insider” jokes/comments? Do you allow/tolerate your spouse to have an opposite sex “BESTIE”??? I pose these questions because this situation is becoming more and more popular… Most people give a quick response of being “insecure”, but knowing the days and times in which we live it’s not a farfetched idea to have more than one lover. Today we are faced with married couples “swinging” and hosting orgies, so then what do we expect “single” people to do?

 LOVE STILL EXISTS – The DivorcedDiva

Happily divorced mother of one. I date when I find a worthy partner. I love to talk about relationships, work through problems with people and remind them of their options. I'm very open and willing to share all of my experiences to help others.


  1. Ms. Nix

    March 20, 2013 at 12:38 pm

    Yes, I can understand how it would make any woman feel uncomfortable and that’s why I step back. I want him and his significant to be allowed to have a relationship without that insecure feeling of me being in his life.

  2. FabEllis

    March 20, 2013 at 5:57 am

    This is a tricky topic. I don’t think I could handle my man having a single female best friend. Now to be honest, my boyfriend is friends with a group of single females. They have been best friends since college and until I came into the picture, all four of them were single and it was sort of a group thing. Because it’s more than one, I have met them and hung out with them, I don’t feel an issue. However, I know if it were just one, like you, I don’t think I would be feeling it.

  3. LoveHopeHeal

    March 19, 2013 at 8:50 pm

    Okay, this is a tricky subject but when a man tells me his best friend is a single woman (unless she is lesbian) I run the other direction. I have an ex that told me the same story and said they were just friends. He said nothing ever happened between them. Well, turns out I found pictures on his computer that showed them “together” if you know what I mean. So, from now on I don’t trust those types of situations.

    • admin

      March 19, 2013 at 11:06 pm

      I can understand your feelings. I, however, have a male bestfriend. I find that if he is in a relationship his partner is often uncomfortable with me. For the sake of his relationship I fall back. A true friend wants your happiness and because I know women are not too happy about us being close I step back.

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