The Impossibility of Skipping Foreplay


I read a lot of sex tips.

As a full-time sex blogger, I need to keep up to date on all the latest sex moves and sex trends. One thing that reoccurs in sex tips no matter where you’re reading them. Everyone always says sooner or later, “Don’t skip foreplay!”

I’ve never understood “skipping foreplay“. How can that be possible? Are there millions of people in the world who just roll over and say, “Time for sex,” and proceed with penetration? That might be alright if you’re planning to have sex with an inanimate object, but when you’re with another person that’s just unacceptable.

For those of you who aren’t totally clear on what foreplay is, it’s everything! To be more specific, foreplay is any act to that establishes or escalates sexual desire in you and your partner. Touching is foreplay. Kissing is foreplay. Heavy petting is foreplay. Hell, even flirting is a form of foreplay!

So how on Earth are people skipping foreplay? Maybe I’m the only one that thinks this way, but if you don’t get kissed once before you have sex, you should really rethink your choice of mate. But that’s just me.

I think the problem is that straight people pay too much attention to vaginal penetration. As far as we’re concerned, that’s sex. Anything else is…well…something else. That’s why you have teens in the South having anal sex because it’s a virginity loophole. But no! If they’ve had anal sex, they’ve had sex.

What we need to do, straight people, is start looking at sex like gay people. Please. Hear me out.

Straight people’s perception of gay sex is distorted by our own fixation with penetration. If you were to ask any straight person what they imagined two men having sex was like, I’d be willing to guess that 90% would say that it was penetrative anal sex. But for most gay couples, that’s not how they view sex. Gay sex can be just oral sex or mutual masturbation. There’s no requirement of penetration for it to count as sex, like straight people.

So this is what I’m proposing, everyone. Stop thinking of foreplay as a separate thing! We need to learn from the way the gay community thinks of sex, that all sexual acts count as sex.

You can’t possibly skip foreplay to get straight to the sex because it is sex.

I doubt that this will catch on. But the least you can do is kiss someone before you get up in them guts.

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  3. K. Elizabeth @ YUMMommy

    November 5, 2013 at 11:45 am

    I think he has a good point. Sex is suppose to be intimate and somewhat sacred, but yet we don’t always treat it that way. I like to tell people to look at sex as a book. You start at the beginning and work your way to the last page!
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    • Ms. Nix

      November 5, 2013 at 11:48 am

      If you do it that way everthing turns out so much better. The entire act is suppose to have a beginning, middle and satisfying ending…right????!!!!!

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      November 5, 2013 at 11:40 am

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    • Ms. Nix

      November 5, 2013 at 12:07 pm

      Yes he is and he is an amazing writer!!!

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