The New Normal Way of Dating

I remember the time when I would turn my nose up at the thought of online dating. There used to be a stigma behind dating online, and that stigma was you were pretty much desperate. Desperate was something that I was not, and I definitely didn’t want that title attached to my name. Besides, if someone asked me how I met my significant other, how awkward would it be to say, “Um oh yeah, I found him on the internet.” Plus I grew up in the South, I’m used to the good old-fashioned way of dating. It’s every females dream to meet her significant other the old fashioned way by locking eyes across a crowded room and then falling madly in love, right?

Well it doesn’t always happen that way. As a matter of fact, it RARELY happens that way. The reality is, we’re not living in a Shakespeare world. We’re now living in a time where everyone is too busy to even meet someone because of school or careers hence, the reason why the online dating scene is booming. Gone are the days of the stigma of being desperate because you found your date online. It’s now the IN thing to do. As of today, approximately 33% percent of couples have met online and some studies show by 2040, that percentage will increase to almost 70%. The U.S. online dating service market is estimated at around $2.2 billion.

Despite the popularity of online dating, there’s still an ongoing debate amongst some as to if online dating is safer than the good old fashioned way of finding someone. The truth is, you can meet someone the old-fashioned way and they can turn out to be a Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde type of person just like someone you may meet online. So what’s the difference? The difference is personal preference on how you want to date. Many people are just way too busy to date the old fashioned way. Online dating is way more convenient for the person on the go.

Just think of online dating this way. You’re just using the internet as an avenue or resource just like searching for a new job. Just like a job, you see something you like that peaks your interest and matches your background and you reach out to hopefully meet up in person. Eventually you’ll meet-up to see if you’re both the right match for each other. If you’re the right match, then you commit to making that bond. Just like a job interview.

Once you find your match, you can always create your own old-fashioned dates.  Also, when someone asks you how did you meet, there’s no need to get that uncomfortable feeling when you say “on a dating website” because I’m pretty sure that’s how several other people in the room met. So don’t knock online dating before you try it. There have been many online dating couples that have turned in to marriage proposals.

Harmonee Holmes is freelance writer originally from Baltimore, MD. Harmonee grew up in small town Halifax, North Carolina and attended Shaw University and Strayer University in Raleigh, NC, She began her passion for writing 10 years ago by blogging and writing short stories, while residing in Chicago, IL. Most of her writing is inspired by her own personal past experiences in relationships and she also likes to discuss current events and politics in the news.She will often sometimes just be creative with a fictional short story. Harmonee is an Insurance Counselor and part-time writer currently residing in Baltimore, MD. IG:@cocopuff319 Twitter: @harmoneeholmes Website:
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