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“She smiles to mask the pain in her heart. She laughs to conceal the tears in her eyes.”

(Khloe Kardashian Odom’s post on Instagram according to ABC News)

Khloe Kardashian Odom is doing her level best to be a supportive wife to her husband Lamar, who recently was outed about his trouble with drugs. Their relationship struggles continue in front of the cameras, with the exception of their reality show Khloe and Lamar  which is on hiatus, yet the world is watching to see if they will survive. When we remove the lime light, tweets, etc were prompted to ask the real underlying question …why do women stay with broken men when it’s killing them inside?

If we filled a fountain with a quarter for every woman who’s loved and tried to save a broken man, we could probably fill Niagara Falls. This destructive relationship pattern—what I call rescuing wounded souls—is one of the most common relationship problems that face women today.

The rescuer is a woman who connects herself to partners who are emotionally unstable in some way. According to Dr. Seth Meyer’s book Overcome Relationship Repetition Syndrome the rescuer focuses on and worries about her partner more than she worries about herself. In this case Khloe shows her dedication to her husband by continuing to stand by him, even though it is killing her inside. It appears that she feels she can save him by standing by his side  through the public and private battle he is having with his addiction.

This hero trait is seen in many women who are not famous because she is ultimately hanging on to love out of fear of the embarrassment of being alone.  The ‘rescuer’   is fiercely loyal when she commits and she will die trying to help him realize his true potential. Rescuers also often come from families in which they felt the need to take care of a sibling or parent, or in which there was a high level of turmoil and drama. While this sort-of applies to the Kardashian family it is seen that there is love under those lime lights.

There is always that notion that if a woman loves a man enough she can change him and make him her equal in love. It’s a project and exciting to believe that your presence in his life will change him around. So much so that when other men seem ‘all there’ then they are boring. It is almost a cycle of self-abuse that the woman gets pleasure off of. But I digress… Khloe and Lamar have genuine love whether grown from a ‘project based’ love or not. She is openly going through a struggle that many of us go through privately. We battle with the possible scenarios of divorce, health issues, and more. But at the end of the day, it worth your sanity to be with a man that drags you into his darkened depths? Are we programmed to love unconditionally even if it drives us crazy. Who will save the Hero Khloe?


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  1. Honeybee

    September 20, 2013 at 11:57 am

    I have been in a situation such as Khloe, except BOTH of us were using…
    The first time, it ruined the marriage, which had other things that made the situation even worse. That marriage, needless to say, ended in divorce.

    The SECOND time, my husband and I stuck it OUT and made a commitment to get sober and stay together.
    We have been sober now for 12 years and we do NOT look back. This is really NOT the norm, but I agree with Sid Johnson, prayer is the best answer.

    There has been much prayer, separate and together, and a commitment in our marriage to HONOR GOD FIRST, then one another. We keep close spiritual connections to GOD and each other. It isn’t always easy, but my husband and I both know, GETTING HIGH AND KEEPING UP AN ADDICTION IS THE HARDEST WORK ONE WILL EVER HAVE TO DO….

    We started utilizing the steps we learned in 12-Step recovery. 12-Step recovery programs work, but one has to DO EXACTLY as told, and many times people with money and fame find it hard to live by rules that govern most of us–that is why many of them DIE IN THE DISEASE OF ADDICTION…

    I hope that this helps someone that is struggling with the horrible disease of addiction, be it them or their loved one. Khloe can also check out Al-Anon, which is for the significant other and the family.

    God bless.

    • Ms. Nix

      September 24, 2013 at 10:25 am

      Hopefully both Khloe and Lamar learn from this. They are going to have to step away from the lime light and from family and friends and concentrate on Lamar’s recovery and Khloe’s co-dependency issues.

  2. Sid Johnson

    September 20, 2013 at 1:30 am

    Even though this is written from a woman perspective, the hero complex also affects men. Many men have tried to save a wife from a diabolical situation. It’s a hard call to make when a loved one is hooked on drugs. Especially if that loved one is a spouse. Families have been destroyed because of commitment obligations. For situations as these, prayer is the best answer.

    • Ms. Nix

      September 24, 2013 at 10:28 am

      Drugs are very powerful and was put in place to destroy. It takes a lot of hard work and prayer to get to a place of recovery. I have seen and felt the affects of a loved one being addicted and it was very hard to deal with and even harder to learn to work with and get through. When its your spouse, it can bring you to a place of darkness and only God can bring you out of that.

    • Ms. Nix

      September 24, 2013 at 10:34 am


      You are such an inspiration on how people should function in a relationship. It is refreshing to see a man make these kinds of assessments, verbally, because I see women doing it all the time. Kudos to you Larry – good advice to follow.

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