Wondering Wednesday: Too Comfortable In a Marriage/Relationship?

marriageDo you think there is such thing as being too comfortable in a marriage/relationship? Or should you be like they have to accept me for who I am now.

marriageThis question is one faced by many, many married couples… I definitely believe people get “comfortable” in a marriage or long-term relationship.  People sometimes feel they’ve been together so long that no one is going anywhere and that that person will not change/evolve. Well life has a way of “growing” us, molding us by the things we experience, and with that, there is change; but hopefully a good change. Sometimes the “change” can cause anxiety, or it can make us feel like we need more than what we currently have. We have to make sure that we continue to love and honor the commitments in our life no matter how we “feel”. Feelings are temporary, what we create, the life we share; the children we bare are permanent. We have to make sure our “feelings” don’t get in the way to cause us to make rash/hasty decisions. We have to think things through, we have to appreciate the life we’ve made with each other, we have to appreciate each other and know that our love for one another will see us through.


Change is normal, it’s good, we have to embrace our changing lives and be sure to share the changes we see or want to make with our spouses so that they understand. We must keep the channels of communication open so that it is easy to accept and appreciate who you are now. Understand that everyone goes through changes, know that in those changes your spouse may feel lost, they may think that you no longer desire them, never push them away, never block them out, hold them close and express your love for them. Always let them know they are important, what they feel is important, what they think is important, what they want is important and who they are makes them irreplaceable!

The DivorcedDiva

“Love Still Exist”

#msnixinthemix @bigredkimes @cnegarita @luvstillexist @msnix2 @emoone

Happily divorced mother of one. I date when I find a worthy partner. I love to talk about relationships, work through problems with people and remind them of their options. I'm very open and willing to share all of my experiences to help others.


    • Ms. Nix

      June 13, 2013 at 8:11 pm

      The little things really do matter more than one can imagine.

  1. Divine

    June 5, 2013 at 1:06 pm

    I wrote a similar essay but haven’t the courage to post it yet. I absolutely believe that we become much too comfortable in relationships. I’m sure that my laziness added to the demise of mine. I tell you what though…it will NEVER happen again.

    Good post!

    • Ms. Nix

      June 5, 2013 at 1:20 pm

      I have to check myself because I fall short too but I’m attempting to remain aware of it and continuously work on not being too comfortable and more appreciative.

      • Divine

        June 5, 2013 at 5:49 pm

        Amen to that!

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