Hop, Skip, & a Wedding Pt.1: The Fairy Tale of Love

Wayne and LaNette (Married) Wayne & LaNette lived in the same apartment building across the hall form each other. LaNette admired how Wayne always seemed to be on the grind, and his Marine uniform certainly helped the view. Their bond grew quickly in their friendship and the mentor ship of her son. Wayne had the courage to ask LaNette, not one, not two, but three times to marry him. Upon the third time she realized that it just couldn’t get any better so she said yes.

Time vs Quality of love. Getting to know your partner & Marriage prep.

Wayne & LaNette: We actually lived together one year prior to getting married and I won’t tell you that we didn’t have intercourse before marriage while living together because we did. Living together before marriage kind of forced us to live as a married couple, before really being married. The rude awakening for me was getting mail and it had my last name on it or when we attempted to add me to his insurance at work and it was null and void because I wasn’t the wife yet. I was only the bed warmer or live in chic. One great thing about living with Wayne prior to marriage was being able to truly get to know him. Not the dating side of him, but the true him. As you prepare for the big day go to counseling! We were able to see marriage from a different perspective through the counseling of our Pastor who had been married for 25 years.  It was wonderful to get advice from someone married for that long to get the real deal.

Timmothy & Chalon: We made a commitment from the beginning to remain celibate during the process. Has this been difficult? We are both human so yes—but it’s possible. Secondly we have had friends advise us to take a year so you can see a person in all their respective seasons. But we had both prayed with specificity for what we wanted and when we met each other it was like, “Whoa! Look at God.” So if God gives you something—and you truly believe it’s of God, should you test the gift as if you do not trust the giver of the gift? Should you place a probationary period on something God gave you? Nope.  We took our marriage advise seeking a little bit further with ‘life practical’ and spiritually based books,  His Needs Her Needs “How to Build an Affair Proof Marriage” and A Marriage without Regrets. We read a chapter a day and discuss it at night to get a better understanding of marriage and life; this is done with additional books as well.

Ezra and Victoria: We married very early on so everyday was a new experience and constant learning process. When we were faced with opposition from others who did not agree with our decision we fought even harder to make our marriage successful. We stood closer to one another and loved one another even harder. Counseling would definitely help anyone with the transition in to marriage. Being together is one thing but once the title of husband or wife comes into play things may become more strenuous. The love is still there but there is also the burden of the title that is not always so easy to anticipate. Communication is key.