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Hop, Skip, & a Wedding Pt.1: The Fairy Tale of Love

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 Stop Running! The truth about men taking the leap.

 

Timmothy: There comes a time when men must “put away childish things.” Become men in full and understand that when you find your wife you will be favored by God. A selfish man will never become a giving husband, so do not sleep with a man before marriage. Now I know this will not go over well in our society but have you ever wondered why you keep getting the same thing? It’s a sign of insanity. Trust me with everything within me—if a man wants you he will wait. If he does not want to wait—after you have expressed the importance of doing so, then he is selfish.

Wayne:  I married LaNette because she was a strong women and I felt that she needed a strong man. I just felt that if any man should be with her it should be me. I didn’t want anyone else with this person. Men are risk takers by nature. We are known to take risk without considering the consequences. So why become afraid when it comes to marriage. With everything that we do we are rolling the dice sort of speak. Getting married is the ultimate happiness.

Ezra: I had been dating prior to meeting Victoria. I found the whole dating experience to be tiring and at times frustrating. I grew tired of investing time into people who would not last. When we met I was looking for a long term relationship. The best advice I can give to another man who is afraid to take the leap is don’t be afraid. If you are considering it then she obviously means a lot to you. As long as you enter with the right intentions and motives you can’t lose. If you are one who goes through a divorce then you have at least learned what you are and are not looking for.

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The evolved woman as a married woman.

LaNette: When I first started my relationship with Wayne I was bossy and controlling. I was so use to being independent. I didn’t know how to relinquish control. I wanted a man but I wanted him on my terms. When getting married you don’t have to not be independent because I think that’s the sexiness that men love about women, but men need to feel needed. They need to feel like they have a place in the relationship. Don’t get me wrong I see alot of relationships where the women is really controlling and bossy to their mate and treat their men like children but that wouldn’t have never worked for Wayne and I.
Victoria: I believe that independence is extremely important as a woman but not as important as finding a husband who is secure enough in himself to not make you feel like you have to apologize for it. When I became a wife I believe that I had to go from being fiercely independent to being a domestic goddess. I was so unhappy because I started cooking, cleaning, waiting on him hand and foot as if this was my new job. My husband didn’t allow that to last very long at all. He reminded me what qualities attracted him and he gave me the space to reconnect with those qualities and redefine what being a wife truly meant to me. I have been able to continue being fiercely independent, creative and I’m grateful that I haven’t had to give up on myself to accommodate being married. I’m valued by who I am and who I’m not. The best advice to a woman considering marriage and worried about giving up career or the things that make you happy; be with someone who never forces you to choose.

Chalon:  I love to read; but every now and then if I am reading a book and I am unsure as to where it may be taking me—I will take a peek at the ending of the book. Well if we are both following the Word of God to the letter—then God will bless our union thus we know how the story will end, so there is no room for the fear of giving up power [independence] in any way.

The conversation continues with Part 2 Hop, Skip, & a Wedding: The Connection **coming soon** 

 

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C.B. Fletcher is a public relations manager that has worked with domestic and international pr campaigns in the entertainment, fashion, hospitality, and literary industry. She continues to pursue independent projects and collaborations for events and growing businesses. As a contributing writer to Breath of Life Daily, Ms.Nix In The Mix, and The Urban Realist she has had the opportunity to feature intriguing and uplifting stories of people from around the country, as well as lend her perspective on risque and complicated subjects. She also has caught the directing bug in her first upcoming documentary about the journey of a woman fighting Mucoepidermoid carcinoma cancer; Some People Are Just (Un)Lucky. C.B. lives in Atlanta, GA and embraces the fulfilling love of her long term relationship and incredible family and friends. For more information on upcoming articles, films, and snippets from her upcoming books please visit www.facebook.com/CBFWorld.
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